A Major Screw Up!

I’m finally going to update everyone on what’s going on with my husband Charley. Now that my children know what’s been happening with his condition and everything else. And also DB & BTude who have been here with us from the beginning.

My husband Charley is in a hospital on the Leeward coast because of an acute case of emphysema and also being complicated with pneumonia. As you all know he was put on a ventilator to help him breathe.

Well, last week Monday, the 22nd of August, Dr. B did a tracheostomy on Charley. They took him in to surgery in the afternoon between 2:00 pm and 3:00 pm. Dr. B comes out after the surgery was completed and calmly tells me that the surgery went okay, but they had a problem when they were taking him back to the room. Apparently, the trach tube was too short so as he was gasping for air the thing popped out of his throat, which caused him to go without oxygen for 32 seconds. Dr. B said that he never had that problem before with a common procedure as this one. So what is the fucking problem? Do you just fucking assume that everyone is the same? How can you make a fucking mistake like that? Dr. B says to me, your husband has a long neck and throat passage so the normal tube that we use was too short. Well, Dr. B….he has been in the hospital since August 6 with a fucking tube shoved down his mouth, and you’re telling me you didn’t know how much length was needed? Are you saying you don’t know how long the tube was that you already had in him? And so because the trach tube popped out, you shove the tube back down his mouth and scratch his insides up again to cause a little bleeding again. And also because the tube was too short and he wasn’t getting air in his lungs, the air was going through his body which made him bloat up and his head and neck looked like a fucking pumpkin! They sutured the hole they made and bandaged him up. If Kaos and Ui was there when this happened, I think I would be bailing them out of jail because the ICU station would be in shambles and the Dr would be hanging over the sides of the building!

After my husband goes through all that crap Dr B repeats the surgery on Wednesday afternoon. This time he did it correctly without botching it up. So WTF? Why couldn’t you have taken a measurement through an Xray or something the first time?

Fortunately my Charley is stable except for his white cell count that dropped to below 1 before they try to give some antibiotics. As of yesterday, it was 1.5 and they need to bring it up to at least 4-5. Which now puts him at risk to catch anything because his immune system is low, so they have him in reverse isolation. Anyone who is sick cannot go in, and when you do, you need to wear a mask and gloves. Which to me they should have done a long time ago. He is alot more comfortable with the trach and now can move his mouth and make words to tell us if he needs anything. Still no voice, but we have been reading his lips. He’s asking for coffee and food. But unfortunately he cannot take anything by mouth as yet, they are tube feeding him. They started sitting him up in the bed from yesterday. They make the bed into a chair so he can sit up more. They will be doing that twice a day as long as he can handle it. His vitals are stable except that every now and then his heart races or throws A fibs. It usually happens when he gets excited or irritated.

Is there anyone who is medically proficient enough to tell me how they can botch up a simple surgery? How can one assume that everyone is the same? No one is alike in anyway, shape or form! A simple surgery that put my dear husband in alot of stress and pain.

So, my dear friends and readers, the next time you see a picture of me, it will be with no fucking hair cause I’ve done pulled out most of it. And not to mention how upset and frustrated my children feel. :-o It’s hard to go by the hospital day after day and watch someone you love so helpless and in so much pain. But he’s a fighter and is still hanging in there. I pray for him day and night. And I tell him how much I love him every time I talk to him. And I tell him how much his children love him too. And how they wish they could all be here with him. He was so happy to see the Wench and her brother Jimmy and grandson Alex. He wants to see Kamalani, but she’s not old enough to go in, and I wouldn’t want her to see him that way. Maybe when he gets better.

Well, that’s all for now, and thank you all for your prayers and support. I love you all.

UPDATE: 1:45 pm …. I talked to a Dr. today and his bloodcount is back up to 4. Good news for the day. Thank you Father God.

08-29-2005 | 10:29 | Rants

Mahalo Nui Loa

I would like to take this time to thank all of you out there in blog land for your support and prayers for my husband Charley and my family. It has meant so much to know that there are so many people out there who care.

I wish I could bring you joyous news on his condition, but he is on this roller coaster ride. One day he’s down, the next couple days he’s really good, then he goes a little down hill again. It’s a rough ride for all of us, but we are trying our best to hang in there. My children are in alot of pain to see their Dad this way and I wish I could make them stop hurting, but all I can do is be strong for them and pray that God will be kind and give them strength.

All 10 of you brothers and sisters out there, know that your Dad loves all of you with his heart and soul and so do I. If I could give him back to you the way he was, I would do it. It hurts me even more than it hurts you because I see the pain and sorrow that this is causing all of you. And I feel so helpless and so lost. Your Dad is my life and my soulmate. We have been together for a long time and it kills me to see him hurting, and all of you hurting. I need all of you to be strong so that I can be strong. I love all of you so very much and hope that you know that.

And I want to say a special thank you to DB & BTude for being here for me and the beautiful bouquet they sent to Charley. I love you guys! And all the way from Arizona, 3T & her daughter Tayler. I love you girls! Thank you for the beautiful flowers I got today. It sure brought a tear to my eye, but it was tears of happiness that absolutely made a bad day good.

God bless you all and Mahalo from the bottom of my heart and those of my 10 children.

08-23-2005 | 20:40 | General

My Husband, My Soulmate

This post is dedicated to my husband who right now is very ill. On Friday, he was having a hard time breathing, so I had to call an ambulance for him. This was around 11:30 p.m. they took him to the emergency room at the comprehensive center here in Waianae. He has such a bad case of pneumonia that he had to be put on a resperator.

He was transported to the St. Francis West Hospital where he remains in ICU. They plan to keep him on the resperator till they can try to clear the infection in his lungs. Hopefully with God’s help he can pull through this.

I pray for him and ask for God’s strength that he can see my husband and the rest of my family through this ordeal. It kills me inside to see him in such a lifeless stage. He is my love, my friend, my companion and the father to all my children, all ten of them. He is a beautiful, caring human being who loves life and loves his children unconditionally. He brings laughter and joy to my life, even with his sometimes lame jokes.

The nurses try to be encouraging and say he is strong considering the condition he’s in because as heavily sedated he is, he is trying to sit up. But they have his hands in restraints to keep him from pulling the hose out. They assure me that he is not in a coma cause he moves around. And when I or my daughters talk to him, he can hear us and he gets squirmy and tries to talk, but can’t because of the hose down his throat.

I love him with every beat of my heart, and wish that I could take away all his pain. I feel so helpless because there’s nothing I can do but pray and ask God to make him better. I get angry at him cause he gets so hard headed everytime he gets sick and refuses to go to the doctor. If I could carry him, I would put him in the car myself. So now his stubborness has come to this.

So, all my friends out there, I will be out of circulation for awhile and I just ask that you keep Charley in your prayers. With God’s help he might make it through this rough ordeal. Thank you and see you all later.

08-07-2005 | 10:41 | General

Hawaii Blogger Coalition CelebrateThe Kid’s Birthday

Hey everybody! Yeah, yeah, I know I’m late. Just chill will ya! I was busy getting my house ready for an inspection, plus 2 kids, and a sick husband to tend to. I think I’m justified at being late. Thank you for your patience.

Okay, well we went to Nimitz Beach to celebrate Kamalani’s Birthday this past Saturday. What’s that? Why Nimitz again? Because it’s beautiful, fun, and safe there. They have Military security patroling every so often to make sure everything is okay. We don’t wanna deal with all the chronics hanging around alot of the beaches here. Especially when our kids safety is concerned.

 

08-03-2005 | 10:02 | General